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"I want to stand as close to the edge without going over. Out on the edge, you see all the kinds of things you can't see from the center."- Kurt Vonnegut
"Your memory is a monster; you forget - it doesn’t. It simply files things away. It keeps things for you, or hides things from you - and summons them to you to recall with a will of its own. You think you have a memory; but it has you."